I Don't Love You Anymore - How To Move On With Your Life And Coping After Heartbreaks
25th of Nov 2006, at 9:43 p.m., I heard the most devastating statement of my life. The five words "I don't love you anymore" were hurled at me by my girlfriend of eight years. She literally told me "Oscar, I don't feel like I used to with you anymore. I don't love you anymore". Since then, it's been hell on earth. I could not seem to do anything. It was like the very essence of my being was torn from me. I had no more "fiber" in me. There was no zeal to do anything. No reason to live anymore. I considered so many options to end the torment; dating lots of girls, getting even, worst of all, suicide. My heart simply stopped beating, my life seemed to come to halt, I suddenly lacked the will to live and survive.
How many times have we all heard such statements? How do you move on when it clearly seems like there is no reason to? How do you learn to forget the pain or is it suppress it? How do you cope with seeing him or her date someone else particularly when you stay in the same neighborhood? I will attempt to shed light on how you can move with light even in the face of intense pain and heart ache. While I am not by any means saying that the tips provided here are the ultimate, I can at the very least state that they worked for me and seem to work for people I have recommended it to.
1. The very least you can do is go out.
Have fun with your friends. Scuba-dive, play soccer, dance, jog, party, your get hair done, fix those nails, go shopping et.c Being with friends and loved reduces the sense of loneliness. Reach out to friends and people you had ignored or not spent time with; spend time with them. Meet new people. But for Chrissake, do not just be by yourself. It makes the pain more excruciating.
2. Make up your mind to forget.
Hard as this may sound, it gets easier with every passing day. Put your mind to other things. As soon as you notice the thoughts of him or her creeping in, force your mind to other things such as the work at hand, the baseball game you just finished watching, anything. Just don't think of them. Practicing this is hard at first, but it gets better with daily practice.
3. Get busy.
Nothing makes the pain easier than getting down to work. It has been said that working makes the pain easier. By the time you get back from work, you are so tired you do not have time for anything else except sleep. And by the time you wake the next day, you are focused on the day ahead. With time, you will find a noticeable decrease in the frequency of thoughts you give to him or her.
4. Avoid all contact with them.
While it is good to remain friends with your erstwhile partners, avoid them while you are healing. This aids the healing and makes it quicker. If you both take the same routes to work, avoid that route. Avoid the shopping mall where you two used to go shopping. Avoid all the places the both of you used to go. Avoid every and anything that may bring you two together until you are seventy percent healed- You are seventy percent healed when you see them and thoughts of the past are just a pleasant memory, or you can successfully will your mind not to remember what it was like being with them.
5. Believe that you can love again and be loved by someone too.
One of the first things you notice is a serious lack of confidence in yourself; particularly when you did all you could to make the relationship work. I am a firm believer of the "one-door-closes-two other-doors-open theory". Every disappointment as far as I am concerned is a very big blessing. It gives me time to review what went wrong, and allows me improve on the could-have-been-better areas of my life. Think positive. There is always a better person out there waiting to love you and be loved by you.
6. Most of all, be yourself.
Do not change simply because you think you are not good enough. There are people out there who would love you for who and what you are. If there are some aspects of you that need changing, then by all means change them.
7. Get Rid Of Everything that reminds you of them. Get rid of those pictures you took at the beach. Take time to purge yourself of all those souvenirs and memoirs. All these help you ease off thge burden and pain.
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Writing an Online Dating Profile: Common Pitfalls to Avoid
When writing an online dating profile, there pitfalls that you should avoid as they may well cost you love of your life. Some common pitfalls include:
1. Laundry List:
Yes, complex beings we are, with wide and varied interests. But you don't need to put each and every one of them in your profile. Four to five activities that mean most to you and are integral to your life suffice.
2. Shopping List:
This is related to 1 above, only that you make a long list of demands that your prospect must have or meet. Some online dating profile lists of demands simply cannot be met by someone from planet earth. Be realistic.
3. Lies:
The biggest complaint about online dating is about all the liars out there. People lie about their marital status, age, profession, income and so on. These lies eventually catch up with them, inflicting deep wounds and even lifetime scars on either or both parties. Be honest.
2. TMI (Too Much Information):
Don't spill every little detail about yourself in your ad.
First, if you lay everything out on the table right away, you'll have a hard time finding things to talk about later.
Second, a little mystery in a relationship helps strengthen the interest in both parties. Take your time in finding out more about each other.
3. Bragging:
Nobody likes a show-off. But how, you might ask, do you write positively about yourself without sounding arrogant? Well, be objective as opposed to being subjective. Avoid self-aggrandizing commentaries like, "I look great", "I am successful", "I have a great sense of humor", and so on.
4. Clichés and Other Overused Phrases:
Guess what? Almost everyone enjoys "fine dining" and "long walks on a moonlit beach". You're not inviting a response when you list things like this. Using these phrases will make you seem unimaginative, if not outright boring. Put some thought into what you really enjoy doing and list things that make you stand out from the crowd.
5. Loser Words and Phrases:
Avoid using any of the following words or phrases in your personal profile:
a) "I'm tired of being alone" - This paints you as desperate and can set you up for responses by manipulative people.
b) "If you want more info, ask" - The whole response/reply process assumes this. Adding this line indicates laziness on your part to think about the content of your ad.
c) "I'm honest" - Even the most compulsive of liars won't admit to being one, so there's really no point in saying this.
d) "I'm no good at these things" - Few people consider themselves particularly gifted in writing personal ads. Like a) above, this reads like unmotivated filler text.
e) "I can't believe I'm doing this." Well, guess what, you are! Get real.
6. Shouting:
Typing in all capital letters is not only hard on the eyes, but also annoying to most readers. Also, on the Internet this is considered shouting. DON'T SHOUT! (See what I'm saying?).
7. Sexual Innuendo:
Save the sex talk for later communication, when you and your date become more comfortable with each other. What you intend as a cute remark may inadvertently be taken the wrong way.
8. Berating Former Relationships or Partners:
Almost everybody has gone through a relationship that just didn't work out (I doubt there's anybody who hasn't). Don't whine about what you didn't get out of your last relationship. This is not the time or place to vent.
9. Unfamiliar Words:
Don't try to show off vocabulary you do not have. The easier to read your personal profile is the better. Conversation-style writing that brings out your personality works best.
10. Negativity:
You want to come across positively. Talk about your positive aspects and traits. Leave the negative behind.
There you have ten common pitfalls to avoid when writing an online dating profile. And while you are at it, don't forget to check your spelling and grammar.


Your Absolute Ultimate Romantic Valentine’s Day Gift Idea
Are you looking for the very best romantic gift idea for Valentine’s Day? A romantic gift that will build with anticipation beyond Valentine’s Day itself? One that will provide an ever-lasting impression? Then this is the gift for you!
Valentine’s Day is the time of year for lovers and romantics of all kinds to show that love and affection openly without ridicule. Each year we try to find the perfect gift that will show our affection.
Flowers are sometimes appreciated. Jewelry is sometimes cherished. Chocolates are becoming less appreciated, as we seem to be looking for healthier options.
But what could we give to our special someone that would be cherished? One that would increase with anticipation beyond Valentine’s Day itself. One that would leave an everlasting impression on that special someone. And one that gives of our self (and also to our self).
That gift can only be a romantic cruise getaway! That’s right. What could be more romantic than be lavished upon while vacationing on the open seas?
Elegant dining rooms with mouth-watering cuisine tempt your palette. Watching the sun set into the sea. Moonlit strolls on the decks. Dancing into the night. Watching the sunrise over the water.
Who wouldn’t be impressed with such a gift? Besides all of the amenities on board ship, the exotic ports-of-call and the pampering service, we are also giving ourselves as we spend precious time with the ones we love.
Now I know that some of you are thinking that this would be a gift that only the most well-to-do could afford. But that is not the case! With published prices starting at about six hundred dollars for a week’s vacationing, more can enjoy the pleasure. A four or five day cruise can be even less.
Even if these rates are a little steep, there is a sea option that can be equally as unforgettable. A dinner cruise can be as affordable as a night on the town and be definitely more memorable.
No matter what type of cruise you may choose, it’s sure to be a hit this Valentines Day and one that will be long remembered.
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